It’s the weather for me.
It always has been.
Whenever the weather is gloomy and the rain heavy, I long to curl up in bed under the covers and snuggle. For some time it’s been only me in my singleness, as of late I’ve felt the urge to be held. To hold onto someone. To revel in the warmth of a man’s embrace.
Quite honestly these urges frighten me. I grew up thinking self love and independence was the way to go. Don’t get me wrong, I still believe that self love and independence are important, however I am now learning the value of connection and interdependence
We are humans and we are wired for connection! God made Adam in a perfect space and saw that it was not good for man to be alone and so He gave Adam a helpmate. A companion. A wife. Hence it is our nature to seek safety, love and belonging aka connection. Thankfully or hopefully it’s found in friendships, but nothing beats finding that connection , that companionship in a life partner. So to seek out or to desire a partner is quite normal and healthy and I dare say, should even be encouraged.
Some time ago I stumbled across this quote that goes something like this
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.’
I know I can (and do) enjoy my life and will accomplish the goals I have for myself, by myself. But wouldn’t it be more exciting, more fulfilling to have a partner along with me for the ride?
Someone to remind and encourage me when my eyes waver from my goals?
Someone to share the adventures of life with?
Someone who sees me as I am, perfectly flawed, and accepts me still?
Someone who allows me to do the same for him…
Going far requires support from others and I’ve decided that I will go far …